Thursday, January 31, 2008

Big Shout Out: My pal Roberta is a blogging star!

Have you been watching Mad Men on AMC? No? Well my friend my friend Robertathinks you oughta. The writing is smart, the characters are sharp, the plots are interesting and they are winning awards like crazy.

The official Mad Men website has featured Roberta and her sister Deborah's blog as the Mad Men Blog of the Week!

Roberta and Deborah can often be found leaving witty and profound comments on Shapely Prose, so their names might be familiar to you.

They are so in love with this show that they started a blog to proclaim their Mad Men love to the world. It's so cool that they have been noticed and given a corporate high-five by the executives upstairs and I want everyone to know!

Roberta, please don't forget about me when you are attending fancy Hollywood Mad Men parties. I might even watch the show now.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Big Sale at Kiyonna

Two promotions at Kiyonna have just been sent to me by the lovely and talented Yvonne. They are so good I have to give them their own mention.

New Coupon Code and Discount on your next purchase through February 29th:
With your purchase of $150 or more, receive a coupon for $50 off your next purchase of $150 or more. Coupon emailed immediately following purchase and good between 2/19/08 and 2/29/08.

One Day Only -- Extra 20% Discount on Already Marked Down Sale Items:
Use Coupon Code "What Game" on Sunday, February 3, 2008, and receive an extra 20% off all sale items.

This is the time to get yourself that wrap dress you've been dreaming about. What can I say about Kiyonna that you haven't already heard? Designed for curves, rather than merely sized-up from a smaller/straighter dress pattern, I find the Kiyonna dresses drape the right way, flow the right way and hug the right way. My curves sure look good in them.

Now go shopping at This Lush Life you sexy thing!

Friday, January 25, 2008

Dove Gets it Right Again

Watch this. Nuff said.

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Good For the Planet and Good For Me

My husband and I watched An Inconvenient Truth and were horrified to discover the damage done to Mother Earth every time we exhale. Then John Stossel on Nightline gave equal time to scientists who disagree with the Global Warming theories and they told us that we could once again breathe without guilt.

So with our heads spinning from months of hyperventilating we watched An Inconvenient Truth again the other night and after some discussion, these are the solutions that we came up with:

1. Whether or not the planet is showing warming trends we should still recycle our garbage because we don't want our planet to become an episode of Futurama. But of course I would gladly watch any episode of Futurama over and over until some network with any bit of common sense brings it back. Until then I have DVD's and soon a movie!

2. Whether or not the "alleged" warming trends are caused by human blunders (i.e., industrial waste, auto emissions, American Idol contestants) we should still recycle because it'll make you look smart to your kids (for those of you who have some in your house).

3. Whether or not recycling every single plastic water bottle, plastic shopping bag, and piece of paper will stop the global warming we should still do those things anyway because a pretty planet is a happy planet (ok that was more me than the husband).

I started This Lush Life because I wanted to shop for all the things that make my life more fun without the annoyance of a constant stream of diet ads, which can be found on most any website -- even ones selling plus size clothes. I want to shop for designer clothes that fit well, find products for my home that help me organize my life, and products that beautify my skin. And I want this shopping to be fun and feel good.

So I present some of my favorite natural products for looking good and feeling great:

Honey Girl Organics sells completely organic skin care products handcrafted in Hawaii using honey, bee pollen, beeswax, royal jelly, propolis and extra virgin olive oil. I've been friends with the people behind Honey Girl for many years and I highly recommend these products. The honey comes from their own bee hives that they maintain themselves on Oahu. My skin drinks in these crèmes unlike any other product I have ever used. Lines disappear and my skin feels soft and nourished. Really. This stuff is great.

Take long, hot baths using products from Lush. Famous for being the most wonderfully smelling store in all of London, I have been buying these products for years. Off the plane, leave Heathrow -- straight to the closest Lush. These bath bombs are straight up sexy with jasmine, ylang ylang and clary sage. Make love, not war with this sexy bomb. Lush Bath Bombs

Give gifts of Organic Food & Wine from Organic from Delightful Deliveries.

Free shipping on orders over $50 at GetOrganized! No coupon necessary. Free Shipping will be reflected at CheckOut. Expires 11/30/07
You could buy yourself storage containers or those new green bags that keep your food from rotting in the crisper drawer. Come to think of it, I think I'd better get some too!

Thursday, January 10, 2008

Troll Rant...sort of

A Funny Thing About Trolls

Tell me, please, how thin is thin enough? Will your hatred be tempered by an acceptable BMI or do you require that I stand perfectly still while you run an imaginary tape measure around my hips, thighs and upper arms all the while tut-tutting about my jiggly body?

I have gone back into my archives and changed the title of a post from eight months ago. There are people who actually type "I H*te F*t People" into search engines and find my post with that same title. I know that is how they find the post because they tell me that they enter a search with that phrase "just for fun." Just for fun?! These "fun" people then proceed to comment at that particular post oblivious to the fact that it is an old post and no one will see their comment except for me. I finally decided to just change the name of the post so it no longer shows up in searches for that particular "fun" phrase.

But some Trolls find their way here and have come to stay. I spend more time than I'd like to admit deleting vicious, spiteful, hostile, threatening, virulent, punishing mounds of linguistic filth directed at anyone who dares to say that it might be ok to laugh and eat in public or just freaking enjoy their life, regardless of weight. No! You mustn't stop trying! If you stop trying to attain the "right" body shape (marry the "right" mate, get the "right" job, own the "right" house, drive the "right" car) then you are a loser and losers are a drain on society.

No matter that you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar and that increasing the amount of shame and stigma a person feels only succeeds in increasing the amount of shame and stigma a person feels. So obviously you don't hate me for my own good because your methods are ineffective. There must be more to it.

The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference. There is a thin line between love and hate and let's be honest -- you don't spend your time writing despicable diatribes to people about whom you don't care, so I have come to the conclusion that clearly you are in love with me. Why else all the letters filled with passion? You are consumed with your desire for my attention. I keep ignoring your pleas for consideration and yet you keep begging me to notice you.

And so I have decided to take pity on you and glance in your direction. I shall give you the attention you so desperately crave. While I am loathe to see any similarities in myself and the person who wrote, "all of you deluded fatties should turn off the tv, leave the trough and get some exercise. You people disgust me." Truthfully I must admit to you that I have had those very same thoughts in my own mind when looking in a mirror. I have been on the self-loathing recovery plan for a number of years now and I can tell you that I look at my reflection with approval these days (mostly) and delight (more and more) but -- there's the rub. I get where these people are coming from. It is obvious to me that you hate yourself and you feel you must attack those who choose to not hate themselves.

I wouldn't spend a moment being concerned about whether someone liked me unless that person is someone I respected in some way. I am completely unconcerned about the Trolls leaving comments here but, I am interested in why they do it. I think all people want to connect with other people and to be seen. Anyone who spends time searching the internet to find someone to hate, anyone who takes their time to write a rant about how horrible a person is -- must feel that way either about themselves or perhaps their fat mom/dad/science teacher who didn't give them enough attention/enough encouragement/enough recognition and they want their pain to be acknowledged.

So here it is -- Awwwwww, you poor poor baby.

I end this by saying that this is a place where we can discuss ways to be kinder and gentler with ourselves and with each other. That is my intention when I sit down to write. I leave the political observations about sizeism, jumbled scientific findings, and popular culture to those whom I consider to be more eloquent and (truthfully) more interested in those subjects.

I may not have found a way to forgive, forget, or overlook every person who happens to jangle my nerves and push my buttons but I do strive to see the humanity in the hater.

Friday, January 4, 2008

I Look Good Naked

Happy New Year everyone! I have one resolution and that is to Be Nice to Myself. This is my resolution because:

(1) Being nice to myself will make my life more pleasurable and gratifying.

(2) Living a more pleasurable and gratifying life will give me more surplus and since

(3) it feels good to give from surplus and feels bad to give beyond surplus

(4) being nice to myself is truly a gift that I give the world and is ultimately the best way to be nicer to others. See how that works? Fun is my goal and Love is the way. I don't think it works the other way around because if love is the goal, let's face it - it isn't always fun.

In my pursuit of being nice to myself I just watched a preview episode of How To Look Good Naked, the new show on Lifetime premiering tonight at 9:00 p.m. I must admit I was a bit worried that I would be seeing a bunch of beautiful women, of all shapes and sizes, wearing ugly clothes and crying about how much they hate their bodies.

In fact, what I saw was Layla, a beautiful, curvy 33 year old woman who was put on her first diet when she was twelve, wearing ugly clothes and crying about how much she hates her body. And then she spent some time with the delightful and charming Carson Kressley who talked to her not only about fashion but about her self esteem, her distorted body image, finding clothes that fit her body and her style, and celebrating the skin she's in.

I gotta tell ya gals, I have a really good feeling about this show. Enjoy what you have, while knowing that you can always have more - has been something that I have discussed here before. At the beginning of the show Layla referred to parts of her body as disgusting and couldn't really talk about her appearance without crying. Her pain about feeling unattractive was palpable and I could empathize on a very personal level.

Why do we women doubt our attractiveness and why is our attractiveness so wrapped up in our self worth? I am sorry but I won't be providing an answer to that question. That is a much larger issue with roots in feminism, capitalism and many other "isms" as well. I do know that you don't kick a tree for being a tree and since we just are the way that we are I say we may as well have some fun.

I am really looking forward to seeing more episodes of How To Look Good Naked. I wonder what they will come up with on this show, and how they will continue to work with individual women, each with her own set of body image issues.

With the increasing fascination with finding our bodies wrong as being unhealthy, ugly, and even a threat to the nation; How To Look Good Naked might be another source of sanity in response to a world gone mad with being thin.